I viewed a social experiment video last week where a guy dressed differently and approached the same woman. In his first appearance he was wearing ratty clothing and picking up aluminum cans. He approached the woman, struck up a conversation and asked her for her number. She informed him she had a boy friend. In the second appearance he was dressed to the nines and driving a Ferrari. The same basic conversation ensued and the same request was made. This time he received her phone number and she even asked if he was free for the rest of rest day. Same guy just different appearance.
If we’re honest, we all judge people by their outward appearance. When, if anytime, is this warranted? Each day we react to a myriad of things coming at us. We are so busy that instead of looking past things as they seem, we become predisposed to everything around us, including people.
Paul was judged in this manner. Some thought he was “in it” for his own glory, others looked at him and saw a weakened man, not capable of leading a ministry. They didn’t know the entire story, all they knew is what they allowed themselves to see. When they took the time to get to know him and his desire to share the message of Jesus they looked upon him in a much different light.
Is it our busyness or our conditioning that keeps us from opening doors to relationships? Are we shutting those out that on the surface don’t meet our expectations? By no means do I have the answers here, as I too fall victim to my own misguided judgments. Maybe it’s a just matter of slowing down and being more intentional with those we meet. After all, we’re ALL children of God and we’re never too busy for a new friend, right? 2 Corinthians 10:7 – You are judging by appearances. If anyone is confident that they belong to Christ, they should consider again that we belong to Christ just as much as they do.